To be clear, members of the Herd approve of normal and average behavior. Typically, they outwardly disapprove of destructive behavior, but covertly support it through perpetuating the belief that “everybody” does it so that it becomes normal as well. The members of the Herd that seem to be the most effective in keeping others in the Herd are those who appear to be rebels. These are the rule breakers. One part of the Herd puts ridiculous rules on society–so many rules that it seems like one is breaking a rule if they are having fun. The other part of the Herd is committed to breaking these rules. What is worse, they say that if you aren’t breaking the rules in some way then you are too uptight and worthy of ridicule. Whether you break the rules or not one group or the other looks down on you. Either way you lose, and the Herd invalidates you.
This can be confusing to say the least. For example, a child goes to school and creates a vision of becoming successful, but gets beat up every day because he is considered the teacher’s pet. This daily invalidation takes its heavy toll. On the other side, his parents and teachers put more pressure on him to do better, saying “Don’t waste your gift!” and “You owe it to yourself and us!” The young boy’s natural impulse to do well is lost in the middle of these two extremes. Either direction the boy chooses is likely to lead to misery in the long run, while taking either one of these paths will lead to automatic acceptance by others in that group.
While it is very likely that everyone will take one of these two courses to some degree in their life, neither direction allows them to have equilibrium in their life. Both of these rob them of their inherent potential to create their ideal life.
This is the insidious nature of the Herd at its most damaging.
My blog teaches strongly that a person must lead their own life, know for themselves. They must be able to handle the people who attempt to push them off their purpose line and out of synch with their North Star and Compass Heading.
There is always an option to get out of the Herd. This is the Third Road.Personal development is our business and our life.
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