Take a Very Close Look at Your Subtle Actions

by Michael Berry on December 1, 2014

You learn in personal development that subtle actions can become a very big part of the situation. This can happen a lot with married people as well as business partners. There are little things we do every day, the way we treat each other every day, the little things that we remember, things that we ignore; and these little subtle actions ultimately can add up to a tremendous difference in the experience of the relationship.

An example. If you’re married to someone and you’re running late getting home and you forget to call. That little subtle action of not calling, you may not even think about it, and in your relationship you may think you have the space to not have to call. But now you get home and somethings in the back of your mind and your not sure what it is, and now you’re feeling a little bad that you’re late, and maybe you’re a little stressed out about a situation, and you don’t acknowledge this with your significant other. And they actually start to pick up on this; you’re not acting normal. So all they see is you’re late and you’re acting funny. So they get a little upset and short with you which maybe you recognize. Now all of a sudden there’s this kind of downward spiral going. So now you feel like; so I was a little late, is that any reason to be upset with me? So now you take a stand that I’m not going to apologize for being late because what is the situation really about.

It’s the subtle actions that play such critical rolls in our lives. It’s taking the little things that we do and putting those in a higher alignment with ourselves and our higher values and if we miss a step, which we all do, we should fully acknowledge it and move beyond it. And the thing is; if we don’t take the time to acknowledge our little missed steps it can leave the people around us confused and not allowing them to have the experience they want to have.

In our life we can take purposeful actions, and many of us do, and we can point to all the these purposeful actions we’re taking that should be creating a result. But when we don’t get the result we tend to blame other things that aren’t really the problem. And the problem is many times that it’s just some of these very subtle actions that we haven’t been taking.

“Explore, Dream, Discover”    Mark Twain

 Personal development is our business and our life.
Michael Berry
In personal development we learn that “we all see and experience the world not as it is, but as we are”.


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Jane Araguel October 26, 2011 at 11:07 am

Wonderful post as usual. The little things we do or we do not do usually have great effects in our lives. We may think that something is so small or insignificant but in the long run it has some great effects.

Michael Berry October 26, 2011 at 11:16 am

Thanks for you wonderful comments as always Jane.

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